The Real Secrets of a Great Relationship Randi Gunther, author of When Love Stumbles: How to Rediscover Love, Trust, and Fulfillment in your Relationship, a clinical psychologist and marriage counselor for more than four decades, gathered 14 core, and somewhat subtle, behaviors of couples whose relationships are deeply connected, and grow closer and more committed over time: Partners don’t… Read more »
It’s not affairs that break up marriages: It’s the unfaithful spouse’s inability to be honest about what happened and leave the affair behind them, says Caroline Madden, a Burbank, California-based marriage therapist who specializes in affair recovery.
“When I see couples divorce after an affair, it’s not usually because of the infidelity itself: The betrayed spouse simply gave up trying when their husband or wife continued to be selfish, shady, and untrustworthy,” said Madden, the author of Fool Me Once: Should I Take Back My Cheating Husband?
Relationships don’t come with warning labels. When you’re faced with a potential partner, you are pretty much on your own. This is why relationship researchers at Kansas State University figured the lagging area of relationship warning signs deserved a bit of attention. Early in 2015, KSU’s Nathan Hardy and several study co-authors investigated how the… Read more »
Lose an argument every once in awhile. Surrender the idea of being right. This doesn’t mean that you’re wrong; you’re just willing to validate your partner’s experience.
Marriage counseling isn’t magic. It’s hard work. It’s about a couple’s motivation and timing. Only time with a counselor will tell whether a couple has waited too long. Timing is a vital component in whether marriage counseling works. “Last resort” sessions don’t do much good. Dr. John Gottman, author of The Relationship Cure: A 5… Read more »