Same Sadness, Different Responses Or “Why Are We Fighting if We Both Voted for Hillary?” It’s Saturday morning, and you’ve just gotten the news that there’s a rally downtown. When you mention it to your partner, s/he snipes that you’ve got to take it down a notch. Turn it off for just a moment, please. Give… Read more »
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When you find out that your spouse has cheated it make you feel like you are going a bit crazy. Here is an account by Liz Volunteer at Infidelity Counseling Network Fight or Flight Six years and one week ago, I overheard my husband on his cell phone. He was speaking to a woman. It was… Read more »
For as long as I can remember, I’ve been over-responsible. I’ve felt that I have to be strong and so avoid showing ‘weakness’ by asking for help, expressing needs or sharing my feelings. I’ve hung back and dimmed my light so that my brother and then others could shine and they wouldn’t feel the need to reject or abandon me for taking up too much space or making them feel inferior in some way.
As some of you know, I am the author of three books on infidelity: Fool Me Once: Should I Take Back My Cheating Husband?, Blindsided By His Betrayal, and After a Good Man Cheats: How to Rebuild Trust & Intimacy With Your Wife. I was recently quoted in the Huffington Post as an expert on affairs in marriage. The… Read more »
Dr. theorizes that everyone expresses love differently and in different ways in his book The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts . One partner may be better with talking about their love, while the other partner isn’t a talker. However, that doesn’t mean that they don’t express their feelings in other ways, such as doing something thoughtful (like bringing home flowers). The point is to express those feelings! Not doing so creates an imbalance in the relationship.