Sometimes, a “good” argument can actually be helpful to bring an issue to the surface and get it out in the open as well. Gottman refers to Michele Weiner Davis, who says that people may avoid a conflict because they have learned from their past that arguing led to the end of previous relationships. Certainly, cyclical arguments that never get resolved can only damage a relationship.
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Depressed people do not believe everything will be alright. They can’t. That’s the nature of the condition. The depressed mind ruminates. It goes around and around, thinking in negative, circular patterns of worthlessness, insecurity, isolations, and inadequacy. The depressed mind is stuck. Future happiness just isn’t imaginable beyond the hopelessness. This disorder changes your… Read more »
Can Texting Sabotage Emotional Intimacy? Randi Gunther, author of Relationship Saboteurs: Overcoming the Ten Behaviors that Undermine Love, clinical psychologist and marriage counselor for 4 decades, shares her take on the impact of texting on emotional intimacy in committed relationships. Gunther implores couples to remember a time before the Internet. Consider how intentional and full of… Read more »
The Real Secrets of a Great Relationship Randi Gunther, author of When Love Stumbles: How to Rediscover Love, Trust, and Fulfillment in your Relationship, a clinical psychologist and marriage counselor for more than four decades, gathered 14 core, and somewhat subtle, behaviors of couples whose relationships are deeply connected, and grow closer and more committed over time: Partners don’t… Read more »
Relationships don’t come with warning labels. When you’re faced with a potential partner, you are pretty much on your own. This is why relationship researchers at Kansas State University figured the lagging area of relationship warning signs deserved a bit of attention. Early in 2015, KSU’s Nathan Hardy and several study co-authors investigated how the… Read more »