Straight people are often seeking relationship advice from gay men, despite their relative inexperience with opposite sex relationship dynamics. Gay men do have some key guidance they feel is pretty universal: 1. Make your own rules. Shed societal expectations of what your relationship should be or look like. Anything goes, as long as you’re both… Read more »
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1. We marry people because we like who they are. Plan for your spouse to change. Don’t marry who they are now or your vision of them. Get behind, and enjoy the journey of them becoming their ideal self.
2. Marriage doesn’t take away our loneliness. Loneliness is part of the human condition. Marriage can’t undo that. Don’t blame your partner or go looking for someone new. “Marriage is intended to be a place where two humans share the experience of loneliness.” Let it be until the loneliness dissipates.
Do you know that feeling? When anxiety keeps you up into the wee hours of the morning, fretting and ruminating on every potential worst-case scenario? You imagine your reactions, subsequent events, and the thoughts go on and on. Are you dragged further and further into a nightmare of your own making? Some people are able… Read more »
Gay dating expert and co-founder of OneGoodLove.com, Nicholas Martin, wrote about his recent observations of young people in the LGBT community: Everybody wants to find “the one,” says Marlin. College-aged and recently graduated LGBT folks seem inordinately concerned with the love search. The dream seems to consist of a degree, a good job, and an… Read more »
Do your best to keep the business parts of your personal relationship where they belong. Place them far below the sensitive, generous, selfless places that breed devotion and delight in one another. Touch, give gifts, affirm, and serve. You’ll get much more out of that type of relationship. A business arrangement between lovers is much too cold and unsatisfying.