Your husband cheated on you, and now you don’t recognize yourself. You used to be so together, so trusting. Now you’re falling apart and doing things you would have never even considered doing. This book will help you figure out what to do as you deal with these explosive emotions. It’s important that you understand that your feelings–erratic and unpredictable as they may be–are normal. You need to understand why you feel the things you feel and what to do with those feelings.
Posts Categorized: Recommended Books for Couples
Guest Blog From Co-Dependency Expert Darlene Lancer, JD, MFT
There are certain dynamics and patterns that come up repeatedly in relationships. This year I will be reaching out to other experts in the field of relationship therapy and asking them for their perspective on some of these topics.
I am very pleased to have, Darlene Lancer, JD, MFT as the first of my guest bloggers this year. Ms. Lancer is author of several books on Codependency including: Codependency for Dummies and Conquering Shame and Codependency: 8 Steps to Freeing the True You. In this article she explains the Pursuer/Distancer dynamic.
“The Dance of Intimacy” By Darlene Lancer, M.A., MFT
Are You in the Wrong Relationship?
Too much of any of these behaviors, from either partner, can have both of you running for the nearest exit. If, on the other hand, you were to follow what Dr. Daniel Siegel author of Mindsight: The New Science of Personal Transformation calls the “COAL” Attitude: Curious, Open, Accepting, and Loving, you might find solutions you hadn’t seen before. Taking the COAL point of view, and accepting the fact that everyone–including yourself–is human, you can ask yourself these two questions:
Masters of Love
“Being mean is the death knell of relationships.” Research shows that kindness is the most important predictor of marital satisfaction and stability. Masters think of kindness as a muscle to be exercised, to keep their relationship in shape.
Practice kindness by being generous and open-minded about your partner’s intentions. Don’t immediately assume negativity in your relationship.
What Women Think About Sex Versus Reality
by Guest Blogger ~Dr. Psych Mom, Dr. Samantha Rodman…..I will now tackle what women think is normal sexually, which includes some pretty incorrect assumptions. Thankfully you have your friendly neighborhood blogger slash psychologist to dispel these myths right now. Get ready to email your wife and tell her she’s wrong, because that usually goes well.
