Private Investigator Julia Hartley discusses with divorcedmoms.com what she’s learned, and shares the very basic, very common answers to those questions and more.
Consider the following Q & A:
Q. Why does this keep happening?
A. You keep forgiving it. Break the cycle, up the stakes, or live in turmoil.
Q. There’s been so much lying. How can you trust him again?
A. There’s nothing that can be done overnight. Your partner must understand the gravity of his mistakes, and give you a reason to truly trust him.
Q. You believe he’s in a relationship, but is it really sexual?
A. It’s sexual. Whether it’s in a stage of fantasy or the full physical act, it’s always sexual. There is no excuse.
Q. Your schedules haven’t changed, when does he find the time?
A. Affairs are about the sex, not quality time. Quickies tucked into the routine of the day make infidelity fairly easy to accomplish.
Q. Why is he still lying to you?
A. Any number of reasons. He’s in denial. He’s afraid to face your hurt or anger. He’s protecting her. He’s protecting his image.
Q. Should you stay for the kids?
A. High conflict homes do not make for happy children. If you both decide to rebuild your relationship, do it without traumatizing your children.
Q. Why doesn’t your spouse take your threats to leave seriously?
A. Because you’re still there.
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