Getting married is one of the most important decisions that you and your partner will make as a couple. It signifies your willingness to make a lifelong commitment to each other. That’s why it is important to see a marriage counselor before you tie the knot, but what should you look for in a counselor?
First, take some time with your partner to discuss what you want to get out of pre-marriage counseling. For example, what are things that you each expect from being married? Are there certain objectives that you both have, such as having children? What concerns do you have, such as arguing or communication?
Next, look for a counselor with whom you feel a connection and can relate with individually and as a couple. This makes sense as you both will be covering personal details about your relationship. It’s hard to talk about these things if you don’t feel comfortable, so do your homework!
Another important detail for your research is what kind of training and certification does your counselor have? A therapist who has a certification as a Marriage and Family Therapist is one important credential. Also, consider what kinds of specific techniques they use or their philosophy of therapeutic practice.
Consider what others have said about your potential therapist but balance that out with your own needs and outlook too. Additionally, don’t just go with a therapist whom you know will say what you want to hear. A therapist who has a new, different, or even challenging perspective can be helpful as you and your partner take a deep look into your relationship.
Finally, before you commit to a particular counselor, make sure that you both agree on certain things. For example:
- The time commitment for sessions and availability.
- How many sessions you will participate in.
- Cost and fee structure.
- Can the therapist work with your insurance plan?
- Will there be any pamphlets or reading material materials and what are they?
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