Marriage counseling isn’t magic. It’s hard work. It’s about a couple’s motivation and timing. Only time with a counselor will tell whether a couple has waited too long. Timing is a vital component in whether marriage counseling works. “Last resort” sessions don’t do much good. Dr. John Gottman, author of The Relationship Cure: A 5… Read more »
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A romantic partnership is the foundation of a stable loving family. Try to let go of any guilt you may be feeling about spending time and/or money on yourselves. Remember, creating a stable family structure outweighs any short term discomfort your child (or you!) may have. The goal of date night is to feel connected to your partner as a human being again and not just relate to each other as co-parents/co-CEOs of the family.
Do you know that feeling? When anxiety keeps you up into the wee hours of the morning, fretting and ruminating on every potential worst-case scenario? You imagine your reactions, subsequent events, and the thoughts go on and on. Are you dragged further and further into a nightmare of your own making? Some people are able… Read more »
All couples have disagreements. Sometimes your needs clash with your partner’s needs. Other times, you might misunderstand each other or trigger strong emotions from the past. Fighting is not a predictor of divorce. In healthy relationships, conflict is normal. Conflict is not the problem. How you handle the conflict however, may be the problem. Here are my suggestions (based on the research of Dr. John Gottman) for discussing potentially heated topics.
Sometimes people call me and they aren’t sure if they would like to have individual counseling, or couples counseling. Every situation is a little different. Questions I usually ask are: