Posts Tagged: What To Do After An Affair

My Article in HuffPost-Will He Cheat Again? 3 Red Flags to Watch Out For

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It’s happened. The worst thing you could’ve possibly imagined in your marriage – your husband cheated.

He claims he is sorry and will never betray you again, and he is begging you to trust him. The problem is: You aren’t sure if you can do that. The bottom has fallen out of your world, and you’ve spent every ounce of energy you have trying to decide if you are willing to try again.

To make things worse, your husband has been sending you mixed signals. Much as he claims he wants to make the relationship work, he keeps doing things that seem shady to you. You’re confused, because he seems to be sincerely trying to recommit to you, but these particular actions make you question if he “gets” how much he has hurt you.

My Tips in Huff Post Article: Moving on After an Affair

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Once you’ve made the decision to end the marriage or relationship, commit yourself to leaving. That means figuring out the logistics of divorce (Where are you going to stay? Should you retain a lawyer or is mediation your best bet?) and also coming to terms with the finality of your decision, said Caroline Madden, a marriage therapist and the author of Fool Me Once: Should I Take Back My Cheating Husband?

“Stop waiting for your spouse to come through the door,” she said. “Stop arguing about the affair. There is nothing to argue about anymore.

Instead, Madden said to “take an honest inventory of how the marriage wasn’t working for you. If he or she was cheating, your needs probably weren’t being met and you deserve to be with a spouse who doesn’t bail during rough times.”

Guest Post- Laura S. Executive Director Infidelity Counseling Network

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The week after my husband told me he thought he was in love with someone else, I emailed a group of close girlfriends with the news. My words must have been hysterical because the very next night they stopped their busy-lives-kids-husbands-making-dinner-supervising-homework and told me to meet them at a local café, which I did, where we sat and drank tea and I wept and wept and wept. And they listened.