When anxiety hits, you may think it’s the future that you dread, but in reality, it’s the present moment that you are dealing with. In this moment, you feel like the future is dangerous, and you doubt yourself. This self-doubt is destructive. It can paralyze you, and cause you to miss out on the things you want in life.
If you’re like most people, you spend half of your waking hours thinking about yourself. If you’re feeling anxious, then that much time in your own head is going to have adverse effects, and increase your anxiety.
In order to combat these anxious feelings, a psychological CPR can help you fight back:
- C = Corrective questions
- P = Perspective
- R = Reality thinking
Let’s take these one at a time, starting with “corrective questions.” An example of a great question is: What do I want to accomplish by facing my anxiety? When you answer this question, you set a goal. Setting a goal is the most important thing you can do to move forward.
Just be careful not to set yourself up for failure, as every goal can only be reached through a series of smaller steps. If you fail to break the goal into manageable steps, you can easily lose the motivation and strength to keep going forward.
Forcing yourself to see things in perspective will help you stop the cycle of self-doubt. There are different ways to do this, and one way is to stop or change the negative thought. Also, take positive action in your life. The old adage of “fake it until you make it” works here.
Reality thinking may be the most important tool you have. If a friend were facing the same problems as you, what would you do to help them? Do the same things for yourself. Think about who you really are — the positive you. You have many great qualities that make you special and worthy of a life free from anxiety.
Read the full article here: Three Strong Steps to Combat Anxiety and Insecurity
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