It’s not affairs that break up marriages: It’s the unfaithful spouse’s inability to be honest about what happened and leave the affair behind them, says Caroline Madden, a Burbank, California-based marriage therapist who specializes in affair recovery.
“When I see couples divorce after an affair, it’s not usually because of the infidelity itself: The betrayed spouse simply gave up trying when their husband or wife continued to be selfish, shady, and untrustworthy,” said Madden, the author of Fool Me Once: Should I Take Back My Cheating Husband?
A romantic partnership is the foundation of a stable loving family. Try to let go of any guilt you may be feeling about spending time and/or money on yourselves. Remember, creating a stable family structure outweighs any short term discomfort your child (or you!) may have. The goal of date night is to feel connected to your partner as a human being again and not just relate to each other as co-parents/co-CEOs of the family.
Relationship satisfaction dips after the birth of a first child. It is natural for new mothers to be very baby-focused. However, even the most understanding man can, at times, feel shut out of mother/child dyad. Here are five strategies to help new mothers stay connected with their partners during this transition from being a couple to being a family:
Do you find yourself getting angry, but don’t know why? Has your anger had a negative impact on your relationship? The Gottman Institute examines anger and explains how we can work to ensure it doesn’t hurt those we care about. Anger is a very charged emotion that comes out when we least expect it. Yet,… Read more »
We all hear how it’s important for couples to communicate. Yet it is just as necessary for men to be emotionally aware and perceptive of their partners. Research shows that couples in which men are willing to accept influence from their wives are actually happier. They also have a lower risk of divorce as well…. Read more »
Research is showing that people who are in their middle years are having higher rates of sex outside of marriage than younger Americans. This is according to a study conducted by the University of Utah. What the researchers found first was that rate of sex outside of marriage, in general, has been mostly constant. However,… Read more »
We all know that there can be serious consequences, especially for women, when it comes to the casual hookup. There is always a risk of developing an STI, a urinary tract infection, or pregnancy. However, research is finding that there are even more serious concerns for women than we first suspected. In one study, researchers conducted… Read more »
Getting married is one of the most important decisions that you and your partner will make as a couple. It signifies your willingness to make a lifelong commitment to each other. That’s why it is important to see a marriage counselor before you tie the knot, but what should you look for in a… Read more »