It’s not affairs that break up marriages: It’s the unfaithful spouse’s inability to be honest about what happened and leave the affair behind them, says Caroline Madden, a Burbank, California-based marriage therapist who specializes in affair recovery.
“When I see couples divorce after an affair, it’s not usually because of the infidelity itself: The betrayed spouse simply gave up trying when their husband or wife continued to be selfish, shady, and untrustworthy,” said Madden, the author of Fool Me Once: Should I Take Back My Cheating Husband?
A romantic partnership is the foundation of a stable loving family. Try to let go of any guilt you may be feeling about spending time and/or money on yourselves. Remember, creating a stable family structure outweighs any short term discomfort your child (or you!) may have. The goal of date night is to feel connected to your partner as a human being again and not just relate to each other as co-parents/co-CEOs of the family.
Relationship satisfaction dips after the birth of a first child. It is natural for new mothers to be very baby-focused. However, even the most understanding man can, at times, feel shut out of mother/child dyad. Here are five strategies to help new mothers stay connected with their partners during this transition from being a couple to being a family:
Getting married is one of the most important decisions that you and your partner will make as a couple. It signifies your willingness to make a lifelong commitment to each other. That’s why it is important to see a marriage counselor before you tie the knot, but what should you look for in a… Read more »
Most of us have relationships in our lives: friends, family, the people we work with. There is, however, a big difference between casual connections and deep relationships. Deep relationships actually have positive health benefits, and there are things we can do to actively nurture these relationships. Research shows that having meaningful relationships can have… Read more »
Do you want to make your relationship healthier and happier? Jonathan Wells has several ideas that every couple can use to strengthen their relationships. Learn the secret of true communication by listening. Avoid interrupting your partner mid-sentence. Instead, be willing to listen and hear their perspective. Don’t make comparisons or compete with each other, such… Read more »
Roni Beth Tower, Ph.D., ABPP writes in Psychology Today writes about how important listening is to a relationship. Yet in our modern world, surrounded by technology, we struggle to feel connected to other people and our listening skills suffer. Tower provides suggestions on how to be a better listener. When listening you need to be… Read more »
The Huffington Post 04/02/2017 On the surface, Vice President Mike Pence’s “never dine alone with a woman” rule sounds like a good way to respect your spouse and avoid temptation. However, as an expert in helping marriages recover from infidelity, I think this type of thinking can lead to trouble. First of all, this concept is… Read more »