It’s not affairs that break up marriages: It’s the unfaithful spouse’s inability to be honest about what happened and leave the affair behind them, says Caroline Madden, a Burbank, California-based marriage therapist who specializes in affair recovery.
“When I see couples divorce after an affair, it’s not usually because of the infidelity itself: The betrayed spouse simply gave up trying when their husband or wife continued to be selfish, shady, and untrustworthy,” said Madden, the author of Fool Me Once: Should I Take Back My Cheating Husband?
A romantic partnership is the foundation of a stable loving family. Try to let go of any guilt you may be feeling about spending time and/or money on yourselves. Remember, creating a stable family structure outweighs any short term discomfort your child (or you!) may have. The goal of date night is to feel connected to your partner as a human being again and not just relate to each other as co-parents/co-CEOs of the family.
Relationship satisfaction dips after the birth of a first child. It is natural for new mothers to be very baby-focused. However, even the most understanding man can, at times, feel shut out of mother/child dyad. Here are five strategies to help new mothers stay connected with their partners during this transition from being a couple to being a family:
Susan Krauss Whitbourne, Ph.D., writes how narcissism can damage relationships. In fact, a narcissist may not even realize the damage that they are causing until it is too late and the relationship is over. Even then, they don’t understand how the role they are playing hinders their ability to have a meaningful relationship. Whitbourne notes… Read more »
Knowing that your partner had an affair and was unfaithful is very hurtful. However, there are ways that both of you can rebuild trust and eventually restore your relationship. The first thing to do when facing a partner who’s had an affair is to confront them. This doesn’t mean getting physical or being verbally aggressive…. Read more »
The first year of marriage can bring unexpected challenges for any couple. That’s why Monica Gabriel Marshall, writing for Verily, has some proactive ideas for couples. The first suggestion is being aware of how to manage conflict. When we get into arguments it’s easy to get sucked into the conflict. Or, as Marshall notes for… Read more »
It’s happened. The worst thing you could’ve possibly imagined in your marriage – your husband cheated.
He claims he is sorry and will never betray you again, and he is begging you to trust him. The problem is: You aren’t sure if you can do that. The bottom has fallen out of your world, and you’ve spent every ounce of energy you have trying to decide if you are willing to try again.
To make things worse, your husband has been sending you mixed signals. Much as he claims he wants to make the relationship work, he keeps doing things that seem shady to you. You’re confused, because he seems to be sincerely trying to recommit to you, but these particular actions make you question if he “gets” how much he has hurt you.
After vacillating between disbelief and despair for a week, anger is kicking in and people are looking for ways to resist the Trumpocalypse. This is where I humbly apologize to Millennials. I’ve made fun of your work ethic: job hopping, talking to senior management like equals, getting sidetracked by social media and (eye roll) needing… Read more »