For as long as I can remember, I’ve been over-responsible. I’ve felt that I have to be strong and so avoid showing ‘weakness’ by asking for help, expressing needs or sharing my feelings. I’ve hung back and dimmed my light so that my brother and then others could shine and they wouldn’t feel the need to reject or abandon me for taking up too much space or making them feel inferior in some way.
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Once A Cheater, Always A Cheater? Marriage Therapists Weigh In
As some of you know, I am the author of three books on infidelity: Fool Me Once: Should I Take Back My Cheating Husband?, Blindsided By His Betrayal, and After a Good Man Cheats: How to Rebuild Trust & Intimacy With Your Wife. I was recently quoted in the Huffington Post as an expert on affairs in marriage. The… Read more »
When Couples Therapy Happens at Different Speeds
Many couples reach a point where they decide it’s best to seek out couples counseling. However, Shameela Keshavjee, MS, LMFT-S notes in a post for GoodTherapy.org, that one person may be ready for therapy while the other is nervous and scared of the prospects. Keshavjee notes that it’s not unheard of for partners to have… Read more »
Mental Health and the Transgender Community
Writing for Southern California Public Radio, Tara Haelle discusses new research on the struggles of transgender people, especially for young women of color. There is the hope that this research can help better understand the needs of transgender youth, empowering them with better mental health tools. The study, headed by Sari Reisner of both Harvard… Read more »
Equality and Reciprocity in Romantic Relationships
Dr. theorizes that everyone expresses love differently and in different ways in his book The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts . One partner may be better with talking about their love, while the other partner isn’t a talker. However, that doesn’t mean that they don’t express their feelings in other ways, such as doing something thoughtful (like bringing home flowers). The point is to express those feelings! Not doing so creates an imbalance in the relationship.
