Your husband cheated on you, and now you don’t recognize yourself. You used to be so together, so trusting. Now you’re falling apart and doing things you would have never even considered doing. This book will help you figure out what to do as you deal with these explosive emotions. It’s important that you understand that your feelings–erratic and unpredictable as they may be–are normal. You need to understand why you feel the things you feel and what to do with those feelings.
Posts Tagged: Extramarital Affair
If you want to save your marriage after an affair….
It’s not affairs that break up marriages: It’s the unfaithful spouse’s inability to be honest about what happened and leave the affair behind them, says Caroline Madden, a Burbank, California-based marriage therapist who specializes in affair recovery.
“When I see couples divorce after an affair, it’s not usually because of the infidelity itself: The betrayed spouse simply gave up trying when their husband or wife continued to be selfish, shady, and untrustworthy,” said Madden, the author of Fool Me Once: Should I Take Back My Cheating Husband?
5 Relationship Red Flags You Have to Watch Out For
Relationships don’t come with warning labels. When you’re faced with a potential partner, you are pretty much on your own. This is why relationship researchers at Kansas State University figured the lagging area of relationship warning signs deserved a bit of attention. Early in 2015, KSU’s Nathan Hardy and several study co-authors investigated how the… Read more »
10 Pieces of Tough Love Advice from Marriage Therapists
Lose an argument every once in awhile. Surrender the idea of being right. This doesn’t mean that you’re wrong; you’re just willing to validate your partner’s experience.
My Tips in Huff Post Article: Moving on After an Affair
Once you’ve made the decision to end the marriage or relationship, commit yourself to leaving. That means figuring out the logistics of divorce (Where are you going to stay? Should you retain a lawyer or is mediation your best bet?) and also coming to terms with the finality of your decision, said Caroline Madden, a marriage therapist and the author of Fool Me Once: Should I Take Back My Cheating Husband?
“Stop waiting for your spouse to come through the door,” she said. “Stop arguing about the affair. There is nothing to argue about anymore.
Instead, Madden said to “take an honest inventory of how the marriage wasn’t working for you. If he or she was cheating, your needs probably weren’t being met and you deserve to be with a spouse who doesn’t bail during rough times.”
