Posts Tagged: Infidelity

My Tips in Huff Post Article: Moving on After an Affair

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Once you’ve made the decision to end the marriage or relationship, commit yourself to leaving. That means figuring out the logistics of divorce (Where are you going to stay? Should you retain a lawyer or is mediation your best bet?) and also coming to terms with the finality of your decision, said Caroline Madden, a marriage therapist and the author of Fool Me Once: Should I Take Back My Cheating Husband?

“Stop waiting for your spouse to come through the door,” she said. “Stop arguing about the affair. There is nothing to argue about anymore.

Instead, Madden said to “take an honest inventory of how the marriage wasn’t working for you. If he or she was cheating, your needs probably weren’t being met and you deserve to be with a spouse who doesn’t bail during rough times.”

Is Technoference Wrecking Your Love Life?

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Technoference may not be a word you’re familiar with, but you’ve probably figured out what it means. There’s no doubt you’ll be hearing of it more and more.

In an age when everyone is connected to everyone else 24/7, there is the expectation that you have to be available 24/7 and, if you’re not, there are repercussions. This is not a healthy way to live – especially for couples.

Are You in the Wrong Relationship?

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Too much of any of these behaviors, from either partner, can have both of you running for the nearest exit. If, on the other hand, you were to follow what Dr. Daniel Siegel author of Mindsight: The New Science of Personal Transformation calls the “COAL” Attitude: Curious, Open, Accepting, and Loving, you might find solutions you hadn’t seen before. Taking the COAL point of view, and accepting the fact that everyone–including yourself–is human, you can ask yourself these two questions:

The 9 Most Overlooked Threats to a Marriage

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1. We marry people because we like who they are. Plan for your spouse to change. Don’t marry who they are now or your vision of them. Get behind, and enjoy the journey of them becoming their ideal self.

2. Marriage doesn’t take away our loneliness. Loneliness is part of the human condition. Marriage can’t undo that. Don’t blame your partner or go looking for someone new. “Marriage is intended to be a place where two humans share the experience of loneliness.” Let it be until the loneliness dissipates.

Guest Post- Laura S. Executive Director Infidelity Counseling Network

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The week after my husband told me he thought he was in love with someone else, I emailed a group of close girlfriends with the news. My words must have been hysterical because the very next night they stopped their busy-lives-kids-husbands-making-dinner-supervising-homework and told me to meet them at a local café, which I did, where we sat and drank tea and I wept and wept and wept. And they listened.