Marriage counseling isn’t magic. It’s hard work. It’s about a couple’s motivation and timing. Only time with a counselor will tell whether a couple has waited too long. Timing is a vital component in whether marriage counseling works. “Last resort” sessions don’t do much good. Dr. John Gottman, author of The Relationship Cure: A 5… Read more »
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Relationship satisfaction dips after the birth of a first child. It is natural for new mothers to be very baby-focused. However, even the most understanding man can, at times, feel shut out of mother/child dyad. Here are five strategies to help new mothers stay connected with their partners during this transition from being a couple to being a family:
“Being mean is the death knell of relationships.” Research shows that kindness is the most important predictor of marital satisfaction and stability. Masters think of kindness as a muscle to be exercised, to keep their relationship in shape.
Practice kindness by being generous and open-minded about your partner’s intentions. Don’t immediately assume negativity in your relationship.
All couples have disagreements. Sometimes your needs clash with your partner’s needs. Other times, you might misunderstand each other or trigger strong emotions from the past. Fighting is not a predictor of divorce. In healthy relationships, conflict is normal. Conflict is not the problem. How you handle the conflict however, may be the problem. Here are my suggestions (based on the research of Dr. John Gottman) for discussing potentially heated topics.
Did your partner move out of your home stating that s/he was “confused” and just needed some “time”? What does this mean? It usually means that something in your relationship has caused your partner to question if they can be individuals while being in a relationship with you. They are wondering where you end and… Read more »