Are You Suffering Through An Unhealthy Relationship?

Have you ever ignored the signs of an unhealthy relationship? Do you sense that you might be doing that now?

Chicago-based clinical psychologist Roxy Zarrabi, Psy.D. offered her thoughts in Psychology Today as to why you might be ignoring key issues in your romance.

She notes that unhealthy relationships have a tendency to make you doubt your own judgment. As you feel less and less capable of assessing things correctly, you can linger in a connection that does a poor job of meeting your emotional needs.

Signs That Your Relationship is Not Well

To avoid suffering through a problematic union, Dr. Zarrabi discusses key signs that you may be in an unhealthy relationship. Here are a few highlights:

  • You fear setting boundaries, anxious that your partner will leave, get angry, or consider you needy.
  • Loved ones express concern about your connection to your partner.
  • You conceal or distort aspects of your relationship from others.
  • You are overcompensating to make up for your partner’s lack of interest and/or effort.
  • The relationship is an emotional rollercoaster.
  • You hope your partner change for the sake of your happiness together.
  • You feel increasingly isolated from family and friends.
  • Conflict feels emotionally unsafe between you.
  • Your physical, emotional, and mental boundaries are consistently disrespected.

What You Need to Know Going Forward

Most of all, Dr. Zarrabi’s thoughts on unhealthy relationships point to the following key ideas.

  1. Avoidance is not the solution to problems in your relationship. They will not fade, they will fester. Resentment usually results. 
  2. Lack of awareness and personal disconnect makes seeing your relationship clearly much more difficult. Interactions that are unhealthy aren’t readily apparent when you don’t know yourself.
  3. If you are working overtime to keep the relationship going, your relationship is likely not healthy. It takes mutual effort to keep things mutually satisfying.

Interested in learning more about how to recognize signs that your relationship is healthy or not? Please read more here: 14 Signs of an Unhealthy Relationship

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